subject: A Mompreneur Questions Spouse Or No Spouse In Business [print this page] Recently, I wrote an article about my dislike of the word, 'Mompreneur.' I received some great feedback and even some questioned whether or not my husband was involved in my business with me. I quickly replied, 'NO!' Now, that out of the way, I will say that he is very supportive of me, however, we both agreed early on that we keep our careers separate.
When I was first married, there was a very long transition for me in giving up my total independence. It was hard for me to have to make decisions on MY life as a 'team.' It was hard to realize that I couldn't just make a decision and go with it. I had to discuss it with my husband. Honestly, eight years and two kids later, that is still a very hard thing for me to accept.
That said, when an independent woman gets married and has kids, there is a sense of independence that is lost. Your decisions are not you own anymore, and to this day, it is sometimes difficult for me to accept that. When I make a tough decision, I have three other people's lives to think about, not just mine. My career and my home business is MINE! It's the one place where I have independence. I make the business decisions that I think are right. It's the one place where I can make decisions and it only affects me. Yes, it ultimately affects the financial future of my family, however, my decisions are strategic and will positively affect my home life.
When I hear someone saying that they don't have a supportive spouse, two things come to mind. One, don't give them a choice! If you TRULY believe in what you are doing, they shouldn't have a choice to affect your business. There have been times where I have had to travel for my business and I know my husband hasn't been happy about it, but not once was there a choice of me staying. I won't give him that control over my business. The second thing that comes to mind is that spouses usually aren't supportive when your business isn't successful after a certain amount of time. When the money starts to make a difference to the family budget, spouses somehow get REALLY supportive and even want to join the business at times! If that describes you, then I'd suggest implementing some tools, systems and coaches that can show you exactly how to to make your business successful and quickly! That'll turn your spouse around pretty fast!
It is a personal choice to involve your spouse in your business. I choose not to. Whichever you decide, boundaries must be set in the way of goals and expectations. This is a critical step when starting the business. My independence hasn't really been easy on my marriage. I work on it everyday, but it does rear it's ugly head a lot. With that in mind, it is still something that is important to me. I choose to fulfill that personal goal, however, when I get home each day and my home is filled with laughter, music and wholesome fun, something I've become dependent on, I know that what I have set out to do independently truly is the best for my family!
by: Vidette Vanderweide
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