subject: How To Survive An Affair Now Review [print this page] After only a few weeks, something major was starting to change. Suddenly, talking about the details didn't feel like taking a walk in a minefield. Kathy's emotions were finally starting to be under her control and no longer holding her hostage.
Ray began to open up and communicate with sincerity and humility. He gently allowed her to express the trauma she experienced without arguing or throwing it back in her face (more on Ray and Kathy's story in a second).
Because of the intense pain you're going through, talking about the details at this stage in the game most likely will only confirm the negative feelings you already have about yourself. This will do nothing to help you cope.
In addition, most couples experience a regression in their relationship after they discuss the details. However, if both of you are emotionally prepared, you'll quickly recover, thus making the experience healthy.
This is why I show you how to talk about the details after I've empowered you to take control over your emotions in the first phase of my 3-phase healing system.
Many say time can be a great healer; however, when left without a map, most people usually get lost and drift further apart.
As much as time has the ability to heal, it can also have a negative impact. Letting your emotions run wild and doing the wrong things over and over can eventually disable you and kill your chances at surviving the affair.
For months, Kathy bought Ray gifts, tried being nice, hid her anger, convinced him to set boundaries, and even encouraged him to talk through the details.
